If you or your child just got cut from a team, the below is a one-stop-shop on how they can bounce back/get the result they want next time. I speak from experience, I hope this helps! As a kid that got cut from a sport twice in high school, I can say honestly at that age it was one of the most devastating feelings I had experienced. I know this week many other kids are feeling that same thing. If you were just cut from your respective volleyball (or any sport for that matter) team, I want you to know: Getting cut from a sport does not invalidate who you are. It does give you some questions to answer. The answers to those questions will determine whether or not your athletic journey will continue. And after going on to have a successful collegiate/adult career as an athlete, I speak from experience when I say I believe you have full control on bouncing back and getting your game where you want it to be. Your path may be different though. "Playing Club" is no longer enough to make a school team given how many athletes now do it. Also, many youth sports coaches aren't mentoring in a manner where the athlete is getting the specific training/development they need. Many of you are going to need to figure out how to optimize your development by putting work in on your own - because every successful athlete I know follows an equation similar to what I've shared below. Let's go over the questions and if/then's that come with the answers. 1) How badly do I really want this? "Experience is what you get when you didn't get what you want" - Randy Pausch, Last Lecture Getting cut comes with an uncomfortable truth: Whatever the coach was looking for, they felt someone else was more qualified to provide it. So, to build on question #1, am I willing to dedicate my fall to my game on my own? Do I love this sport enough to continue to participate even if it isn't alongside my classmates/playing games representing my school? I think there are valid reasons for the answer to be no. Some kids have another sport they love that they can play instead. Others may benefit from working a part-time job to afford things they want/need. Perhaps you've just played a full club season and you could use a few months to lift/rehab your body to build athleticism/fix any underlying issues from the previous season. If the answer is yes, let's continue! 2) Are you accurately aware of your biggest areas of improvement? I've seen posts of a lot of parents talking about politics at their programs. But if you're of a certain caliber, those politics only help your case. I'm not defending it, I just want to be transparent that when "politics" burn a kid, the underlying reality is they still have things in their game that can be improved. Complaining about things outside your control does not help you narrow the gap between the person that got the spot you wanted and yourself. Putting all your efforts into improving your game does! While you may have some idea already of what you need to work on, I think there are a few ways to make sure you're on the right path: I think it's fair to reach out to your high school coach, thank them for the opportunity to try out, and ask what things they felt you may need to work on between now and next year if you wanted to try out and make the team again. You can even go as far to ask on things you can do on your own to improve on those skills. If you or your child are nervous to do this, I encourage you to push through it - if a player wants to make the team next year, they cannot be afraid to ask basic questions to the person who will be responsible for making that decision. And it benefits the athlete to be on the coach's radar as time goes on so that they are looking for them next year at tryouts. If this isn't an option, or a coach gives a destructive answer (more on this below), look for a reputable private lesson coach in the area for an evaluation. Find someone that not only can tell you your biggest areas of improvements, but can clearly explain what's breaking down (I call it a STIM statement - Spacing, Timing, Intention, or Mechanics), how to do it right, and how to practice this on your own/with a friend. A good private lesson coach should both give you a lot of growth opportunities at practice as well as tools to continue improving on your own, but sometimes you need to ask for that type of feedback. SO: We've committed to improving our game, we know what we need to work on... 3) Am I controlling my controllables each day to catch up to/keep up with/surpass my peers? I preface the below by saying I am not a licensed professional when it comes to nutrition/lifting: I'm just sharing areas/habits that helped me optimize my growth when I was competing. Here's a simple checklist of things that tie into the above question/I found helped me along the way: Rest: Am I taking care of my sleep? Am I going to bed at a reasonable hour given how early I need to wake up? Am I stretching every day? Do I push my body properly to its limits while giving it the appropriate breaks when it's telling me I need to ease up? Nutrition: Am I eating healthy vs. processed foods? Am I eating at times/ratios that make sense given my training schedule? Am I hydrating properly throughout the day? Simply put, is the fuel I'm putting into my body aligned with my training/goals? Athleticism: Have I prioritized protecting my core strength/flexibility? Do I have any deficiencies with my body's ability to perform? If so, is this more of an issue than my actual volleyball fundamentals? Based on that answer, am I balancing my ratio of days in the weight room vs. days on the volleyball court appropriately? Is my work in the weight room properly reflecting what my biggest areas of improvement require me to improve on? If not, how do I change that? Fundamental Work: As a passer, am I able to pass deep/short serves, flat/loopy servers, move laterally to the sideline/middle seams and still control the ball? Can I do it from all 3 spots? As a setter, can I set pin-to-pin, can I set any tempo balls my respective program runs, how good is my footwork to out-of-system passes, can I still set both pins when pulled from zone 7? As a hitter, can I hit different tempo/routes for my respective position? Can I take a good approach to sets in/out of system? Can I make good decisions on hard-driven/off-speed depending on the situation? Can I tool off the block? There are more (blocking/digging/serving/etc), but these are examples of how I think about one's ability to perform a skill. Based on the things we learned from question 2, are we putting the proper time/work into those areas? Game Film: Who are successful athletes that play my position that are somewhat comparable from a size/athleticism perspective? Watching film of them, what do they do differently than me in the areas I need work? Is it spacing, is it timing, is it intention, is it mechanics? Based on where I'm at, what are things I can work on to make my game look like theirs? Watching one's own film can be uncomfortable - I also think it's a great way for players to recognize things they can improve as they continue to work on their game. Game Play: Are there adult open gyms in the area? Do local clubs host open gyms with other kids I can attend? Where are playing opportunities within my area that I'm able to work on my game? Bonus points for taking film of your games so you can review, recognize improvements, and identify the next areas of improvement to work on. If a player is truly being honest with themselves on the above and taking care of all that, I promise they'll get there eventually. I started as a high school athlete at 5'5", 95 pounds and wore a size 12 shoe. After 18 months of not playing after high school, I picked the sport back up and played 3 years of collegiate indoor volleyball. I started all three years, I was all-conference and had over 1000 kills in my career. Most of my growth leading up to my college career came from the work I did in adult leagues/open gyms before transferring from community college to my 4-year school. To conclude, I believe in you. If I can get where I got to after my high school career, there is no limitations to what YOU can do if YOU put the work in. But many times we're going to have to do the legwork ourselves. So if you truly want to try out again and get a different result? Or give yourself the best chance possible to have a good club season come November? Dust yourself off, pick yourself up, believe in yourself, evaluate the above, and get to work. If deep down, you have other things that would bring you more happiness, that's OK too. Do what makes YOU happy. You are enough regardless of whether or not the above path interests you or not. You are not defined by how well you hit a leather ball over a net, or how well you prevent a ball from hitting the ground. Some of my happiest athletes stopped playing years ago - not because they were "quitting volleyball" but because they were focusing their efforts on areas of their lives that made THEM happy. I wish you luck. - Coach Bryan Coach Bryan is a former 2-time cut athlete. Later on he became a indoor collegiate athlete/coach who also played beach volleyball semi-professionally. Athletes in the Chicagoland area looking for a Fall/Winter Program can learn more here , for parents/players that may want a virtual evaluation of their skills/college guidance, contact him directly at Bryan@progressionvolleyball.com

Look at this photo from last year's summer program. I'd like to use it to explain the difference between coaching 11-18U pay-to-play athletics vs. every other level I've coached, what I believe the ultimate goal is at this level, and my vision for a better youth sports experience as we move forward as an industry. This is my 23rd season as a coach, and aside from international ball I've experienced it all - from AVP tournaments, to NCAA Division I ball, junior college, indoor travel ball - I've been incredibly lucky to have gotten to see the good/bad/ugly at all levels. There are pros and cons to each level, but one thing that's unique to youth sports is an athlete's "why". When you coach at other levels, the "why" is pretty straightforward. If you play for your school team, there's an understanding that you are there to fulfill a role that ultimately compliments what's best for the team's greater good. This is the case in high school, it's certainly the case in college. At the collegiate/pro level, when an athlete came under my programming, there was an understanding that they were there to be pushed to their peak potential - and sometimes that meant taking feedback that they really didn't want in the moment. I certainly remember that in my own collegiate career, and I'm grateful to have had coaches that knew when to crack the whip as well as when I needed a little pick-me-up. But youth sports? The truth is, every single athlete that comes into my program has their own unique set of priorities. Sometimes volleyball is very high on the totem pole - and sometimes it's secondary to other things. Going back to the picture above, each athlete here has different reasons they're playing with us. A few truly do have the motor/drive to play collegiately. They train year-round, lift weights, watch film, communicate with college coaches - we've had over 30 athletes go on to play at the next level, and some of these girls will be added to that list in the next 1-4 years. I also see athletes who play badminton. One athlete tried wrestling her senior year because she wanted to try something new. Another took 2nd in state for weightlifting, setting a PR in her final competition. Some prefer to play for their high school but beach instead of club. Others love their club but for various reasons prefer to train with us instead of play for their school. Some have families who literally have no time/financial restrictions to what they can dedicate to the athletes' youth sports experience. Others need to be as efficient with their dollars as anyone. Some athletes need our program to learn how to push themselves to be the best they can be. But others have other areas of their life that already do that, and volleyball is a healthy outlet to blow off steam / get an escape from those areas of their life. Some people need volleyball to be their 'hard', while others need to to recharge from it. Every athlete you see above has their own preference of where volleyball should fall into their lives. All of the kids that come into our program want volleyball to be a part of their life in some capacity, but the majority of them do not want volleyball to be THE most important thing. That's where I believe Progression has created something special. Our job is to give them ownership of what they want volleyball to be, and provide them the same quality of instruction regardless of whether or not their the strongest or rawest athlete we work with. We're a program that can look at every single one of these kids, and we can accommodate them in a manner where our training bends to their lives instead of forcing their lives to bend to fit into our training. I believe in the things we tell parents about youth sports: That it's a great place to learn how to work through adversity. We teach athletes how to experience failure, pick themselves up, assess what went wrong, how to properly train to improve in that area, and how to compete with confidence when they try again. I believe our program can offer that experience to both our year-round specialized athletes, as well as the ones we may only see 10 weeks a year because they're going to be better. I believe youth sports programming can be truly "elite" without costing an arm or leg, or forcing players to abandon everything else in their childhood that may light their soul on fire. Personally, I was a late bloomer. High school athletics was not kind to me. I took the sport back up at 19 at the recreational level, worked my butt off, and through a lot of sacrifice/hard work, had a high-level collegiate/adult career. Coaching is now my profession. I watch constantly as systems look at kids for what they are now vs. what they can be, and I can't help but wonder: How many athletes are slipping through the cracks that just need more time? I hope you've found yourself in a program that truly sees you or your child as more than just an athlete to utilize for their program. I hope you've had mentorship that inspires athletes to feel more confident/determined than ever before in their lives. And if not, and if you're in the Chicagoland area, I hope you'll consider letting US try out for YOU vs. the other way around. Because in 2026, I believe in a youth sports environment that prioritizes the well-being of each athlete regardless of level or experience. And I hope if you're a like-minded player, parent, or coach, you'll join me in the mission to ensure no kid is held back, and no kid is left behind.

In 2013, I won the Midwest Beach Championships. 12 years before that, I was cut for the 2nd time from a high school sport - and it was crucial for my growth as an athlete.

You could say I'm a volleyball coach and you'd be right. But I think what we do is so much more than teaching kids how to hit a leather ball over a net, or how to prevent it from touching the ground. To me, volleyball is simply the platform. I work with young people who are trying to figure out where their place is in the world. I work with people who have passions for things where their talents are not natural. I work with people who have experienced a lot of trauma at a time where the path forward is not always clear. I am lucky to be able to help guide many of these people through athletics. I empathized with my best teachers as they gave their best efforts to people who went out of their way to not give theirs. And in their defense, many of those kids attended those classes out of obligation. I chose sports because I wanted to have that impact those teachers had on me, but I also wanted to do it in areas where kids chose to be there. I have worked with some of the best athletes in my area. I have worked with athletes that have wanted to play at the collegiate/professional level. I have worked with athletes who loved the sport, but wanted it to be secondary to other areas of their lives. I have worked with athletes who simply loved playing games, and wanted an environment where they can improve their skills and have fun. I have worked with kids who are brand new to sports, are terrified of failure, and just need a space to learn how to move forward when they aren't where they want to be. I felt a large part of my success with my athletes comes from adapting my coaching to what each athlete needed. But I don't think that's commonplace in youth sports today, and I think it's something we need to talk about more. I am a part of some pretty large coaching groups, and I see incredibly detailed articles and debates about things like proper mechanics, drill-to-play ratio, statistics, and more. But when it comes to connecting to individuals and how they want to prioritize volleyball in their lives, I think there's room for a lot more discussion. A group of 12 year olds were really struggling in a passing drill. I'm not talking about bad passing, I'm talking cannot move their feet to get to the ball to even perform a bad pass. All I asked them to do was to try to make the play with no worries about the results, but it was clear it wasn't happening. So we sat in the sand and talked about it. When I asked them about what was holding them back, one spoke up: "You know Coach, I hear everything you're saying. But everywhere else I've played when I made mistakes, I was yelled at or punished - and the hard part was I was never told how to do it better." Think that type of coaching could make a kid "uncoachable?" Another practice, a kid who's usually a rockstar struggled with basic mechanics. Usually they are receptive to feedback, that day it was not happening. My knee-jerk internal reaction was to judge, but at the water break I pulled them to the side and asked if they were OK. And then the waterworks. Their friend had taken their life a couple days ago. They were processing that, as well as that they felt the school was more interested on covering it up instead of providing counsel to the kids. They mentioned how they had their own mental health issues and how this was affecting them. I can't imagine what they were feeling as they began practice. I was very close to missing my opportunity to connect with my athlete. At that moment, it was clear how important executing a good bump set wasn't . I asked if they wanted to continue to practice, they said yes. And the focus that day became about letting loose and having fun (and ironically, their technique seemed to get better immediately). They texted me when they got home, I continued to check in, and things seemed to improve from there. What would have happened if I yelled at them, punished them, put them on the sideline? Are there other kids carrying burdens I'm missing? As a whole, are we connecting with our kids beyond their ability to play a sport? Individual incidents aside, I think we're missing a big issue that's becoming more and more commonplace in youth sports. Everything is so specialized when it comes to training and competing, but the program-player connection seems anything but that. One of the things that shifting to beach vs. indoor allowed me to accomplish was offering high-level development while giving kids a little more flexibility. Because for those that want to play in college, yes, they may need a practice regimen that runs year-round (that doesn't mean playing 12 months of the year - it means recovering when you need to recover, it means lifting when you should be lifting, it means doing the things that will ultimately help a player reach their peak potential). But I have athletes that excel in other sports. I have athletes that play instruments really well, or are part of theatre/musicals. I have one athlete that participates in Model UN, I have others that do mission trips. My athletes are so much more than volleyball players. And it breaks my heart to see some of my hardest-working athletes feel stressed because they are well-rounded, but everything outside of our program makes them feel "If you aren't dedicating every moment to this sport, you don't want it bad enough/you're not doing enough." It concerns me when some of my high-performing kids are functioning on minimal sleep, already depending on caffeine, and dealing with overuse injuries from years of non-stop schedules that even pro athletes don't subscribe to. Do we not remember what our summers were like one generation ago? Nowadays it's nationals, tryouts, high school camp, summer league, beach training, college camps, and more. Summer break used to meant they take a break - now summer break could refer to July when 4-6 of my kids inevitably get injured because everyone is putting pressure on them/they're overdoing it. Don't do the high school programming? Risk getting cut. Don't do the club tryouts? We may not have a spot for you in November (which deserves its own post, because in our region July tryouts don't hold a spot as much as hold the families hostage if they don't like what their situation is come club season). Our kids deserve better. It should be so much more balanced. I am grateful to be able to sit with my athletes, ask them "What do you want volleyball to be in your life?", learn about all the things that make them who they are, and based on THEIR personalities, we make a plan of attack that makes sense to them. In July, athletes will be evaluated on how tall they are, how fast they move, and their ability to perform the skills. Often, they won't be asked about what they want to accomplish with volleyball, what they do outside of the sport, and if the program is a good fit for everything that makes them who they are. To coaches, I ask you to consider the full spectrum of your athletes when recruiting them to your program. To parents, I ask you to protect your kids from environments that provide for them solely on how they can contribute to a team's success. To players, I hope you take time to reflect and ask yourselves what YOU want, and have the courage to leave environments that are not aligned/compatible with those goals.

Let me tell you a story from my 20-year high school reunion - I promise it's relevant, I'll get right to the reason why as soon as I finish. I ran into a female classmate that I hadn't seen since we left. We had spent 12 years of schooling together, and she was the athlete of my class. She was good at every sport she played, was a hard worker, and incredibly nice to everyone on top of that. If you asked her, she would have told you I was more mathlete than athlete. 5'5", 95 pounds, size 12 shoe going into high school. People looked at me to help them with their upcoming quiz, not as a strong teammate on the field or court. Something we didn't realize was we had the same teacher as our coach at high school - they coached her in basketball and me in volleyball. And that night, we shared all the horror stories of how he treated us - the name-calling, bullying, destroying of our confidence even though years later we realized he had no background in either sport and had no validation in the things he made us feel about ourselves. Both of us walked away from youth sports feeling pretty down about ourselves. 18 months after graduating high school, and I got lucky enough to have volleyball come back into my life, along with a mentor that began to show me what I could be vs. what I wasn't. That translated into a collegiate playing career, coaching career, semi-pro beach career, with a peak of winning the Midwest Beach Championships 10 years after thinking I'd never play again. It's taken me to 39 states and twice across international lines. It introduced me to my soulmate and many of the people that will populate our wedding one day. And I almost missed out on all of it because I had a coach that didn't know what I needed. Sadly, I learned that the coach destroyed Erin's love for the game and she never played again. And she regained her confidence, is happily married with a beautiful family, and she's still a badass athlete, so she's doing OK. But I can't help but wonder how many youth sports athletes leave their sport feeling worse about who they are because of coaches like ours? I'm not telling you every coach is as toxic as ours. I am telling you the only requirement to be a club coach nowadays is to take a 3-hour certification that is mostly about liability. I'm telling you many programs will not be able to tell you who your coach will be not because they're "still figuring out who's coaching who", but because they're taking more checks than they have coaches. You'll see many of the programs that have been promoting their tryouts since May begin to talk about how they're looking for coaches in September-November. And to me, that is incredibly backwards - especially given what they're demanding you commit before high school tryouts take place. I know there are not many programs that can guarantee you what you're signing. I do believe most programs will take those same kids in November, and I believe if they don't, then you probably dodged a bullet, and that bullet comes in the form of a poor developmental experience. Youth sports is a 37 billion dollar a year and rising industry. Parents - you are not the customer, you are the product. And I say that simply because I see how many of you are sacrificing so much time and money, and how much of your kid's childhood is being spent in these gyms, and I believe if you're paying a premium price, you deserve a premium service. And so many of you are getting an experience much lesser than what's being advertised. If a program expects you to sign/do a down payment in July, they should be able to commit the quality of coach you'll receive. You should be able at minimum to narrow it down to 2-3 coaches, and they should be able to give you an overview of their background (Frankly, I think programs should be trying out for families vs. the other way around. In our program, families experience a one-time practice, parents watch, and if they like the quality of instruction, they're welcome to join our program. One of the many perks to beach doubles/not needing specific positional players). Too often we look at the success of the top teams of programs when discussing what makes a program "elite". Respectfully, I think that speaks more to a program's marketing/recruitment than their quality of instruction. An elite program is one that gives a similar opportunity for growth for their non 1's teams. I think of Strive in Maryland (A non-profit that has 3 coaches for each team! Special shout-out to Jenn and John), Gaston Galaxy in NC, Iowa Select in Iowa, The Edge and Aggression in Illinois, just to name a few. Tournaments shouldn't be the bar, but the measuring stick - and the focus shouldn't just be on fielding the best teams, it should be about developing the kids we have. Too many kids are leaving club with over-trained bodies, burnt out minds, and insecurity about their skills. This is your moment to demand more. Once that contract is signed/check clears, there's no turning back, so choose wisely! To conclude, I wish you luck this weekend as you look for a program. I hope you demand the same amount of commitment from your program that they're asking of you. I hope you have faith in the idea that you will not fall behind if you do not accept a contract in July because you cannot get transparency on what that contract provides. And I hope you settle for nothing less than a program that coaches for your kids, vs. your kids playing for them. There are always ways to stay in the sport outside the norm - sometimes, the best lesson youth sports teaches in 2024 is to take the road less traveled if the common path is not giving you the same opportunity as the peers you're trying to catch. Progression Volleyball runs 10-week sessions throughout the year / offers "Try-Us-Outs" for families that would like to evaluate our staff before making a commitment. We work with 11 and up athletes of all ages and levels. For those in the Chicagoland area, Fall Information can be found here and Winter Information can be found here .

To Amanda, Bella, Bri, Crystal, Ella, Halle, Jess, Kyla, Nicolette, Phoenix, Kyla, and Sarah, A quick story: Tuesday afternoon I found myself watching the Nebraska Beach Volleyball practice next to Jordan Larson. The girls had just finished some warm-up drills and Coach Reyes put them on three courts to scrimmage in preparation of their season opener that took place Thursday. The wind was causing chaos, but the girls were working hard, laughing and having a good time along the way. "Oh to be young again." Coach Larson said as she watched them scramble around their respective courts. Here's arguably one of the most successful athletes in the history of our sport. She's a 3-time Olympic medalist, including winning gold in 2020 while being named Most Valuable Player / Best Outside Hitter. She's literally lived countless athlete's childhood dream. And she's watching these girls flail around the sand and she's jealous of them . Has there ever been a better case for the quote "It's not the destination, it's the journey" by Ralph Waldo Emerson? By the end of the weekend, all thirteen of you will have completed your season opener for your college beach seasons. Some of you may win, some may lose, some may not get the opportunity they were hoping for. I remember many of you as high school kids, hopeful to one day have this very opportunity, but nervous/uncertain about what doors would open for you. You kept working. One day at a time. Thousands of reps. Social life sacrifices. Homework in the car to and from practice. That version of you would be so proud to see the young women you've all become. You've all come so far from where we've started - and you're truly just getting started, both as players and people. I hope that you find the lessons from the adversity. It's no different than it was as we trained. When we lose points, our opponents are giving us the opportunity to figure out how we need to adapt. When our teammates struggle, these are the moments that high fives and belief from peers carry more meaning. If we aren't in the role we want, I hope you have the courage to talk to your coach to ask about what you need to work on to earn the opportunity - and then I hope you do it. But my hope for you, above all else, is that you find the gratitude in the opportunity to be a part of it all. And I hope you can be present, and find the joys that come from being a college athlete. It'll go by faster than you think. I remember not always getting along with my college squad. None of those issues stick with me nowadays. I remember the good times. I miss the good times. And while I haven't yet hit 40, I've already lost my coach (who was only 29 at the time) and two of my teammates. As you get older, you start to realize where the real wins and losses lie. I hope you compete with everything you have, because you've earned the opportunity to be the best you can be this weekend - even if that's not your actual best. I hope you give yourself grace for the mistakes, because it's important to remember your 2021 gold medalist April Ross lost 46% of her plays the year she won the gold medal (I bet you thought you'd heard me say that for the last time, you'd be wrong!). Win or lose, I am so grateful that I've had a chance to part of your journey - whether we just met this winter or you've been in our sand for years. I see the very best in all of you. Your results will never change that. And I hope when you look in the mirror, you see the same thing I do. You deserve nothing less. I wish you all luck this weekend, I and the other coaches are rooting for you. We are always a message away if you need anything. Your Coach and Fan, Bryan

While top players are notified of their coach and teammates, newer athletes are expected to cut a check / sign a contract in July - only to wait until November/December to know what they paid for. We feel those athletes deserve better. When club tryouts moved from November to July, there were some pretty immediate repercussions. Every year since they've swapped to summer tryouts, I've gotten messages between Thanksgiving and Christmas from parents. They all come from various programs, but the story is always similar. "When we tried out in the summer they sold a lot of good things to us. But now that season has started . We don't want to stay, but they won't give our deposit back if we walk away. That is so unethical in our opinion. At Progression we strive to be transparent and provide equal opportunities to all our athletes. With that in mind, we'd love to give a brief breakdown of our Try-Us-Outs . We will offer 4's for 11-14U (We believe 4's is a great way to teach young kids all the fundamentals - no more middles never getting to pass or backrow players never learning how to attack. We want our kids to have an all-around skill-set once they get to high school so they can be more versatile/have a better chance of making their teams) and 2's for 15-18U. We will accept the first 24 11-14U and 32 15-18U athletes that want to join. Our tryouts will be on Tuesdays and Thursdays from 6-8pm starting 7/18. But here's the twist: You aren't trying out for us. We're trying out for you. We will run a 2-hour introductory practice for the athletes, and parents are welcome to stay and watch to see what they're paying for. Sessions will be ran by the same coaches your players will work with during camp. Immediately following play we will conduct an optional Q&A session to address any questions parents may have about our program/beach in general. The stigma of "you have to play club to play in college" is outdated. Clubs have continued to get bigger and bigger while we haven't adjusted the coaching education to meet the demand. How are rawer athletes supposed to catch the peers ahead of them if they're getting a lesser education? Focus has become more about bids and travel tournaments than the development that actually helps athletes become the best version of themselves of which they're capable. That's why we've created a system that ensures every athlete gets the 1's team treatment. All our coaches work with all our players. So whether you're a college-bound athlete or a player brand new to the sand, you're given the same mentors, learn the same systems, and are provided the same opportunity for growth. Don't take our word for it - click here to sign up and let us show you. July has become a very stressful time for parents and players as they're rushed to decide what to do next season weeks after the previous one concluded. Are you a parent or player that is struggling to navigate your youth sports journey? Contact us with your question/situation and we'll do our best to address as many topics as possible!

Youth sports is supposed to help young athletes build confidence in themselves. But as focus shifts from outcome to income, is it doing the opposite? TW: Suicide, Depression My father was the head coach of my 5th-8th grade basketball team. While I would adopt a lot of my coaching philosophy from people like John Wooden, Lou Holtz, Karch Kiraly and others, a lot of my foundation as a coach came from those four years playing under my dad. He let the team decide if the focus would be on winning or playing time (while making sure everyone would play at least a quarter no matter what). There was a big disparity in talent between the starters and non-starters, but he made sure everyone was respected regardless of their role. He challenged us to be our best while never making us feel like wins or losses defined us. I remember having a conversation with my dad as I began my coaching career. He said something that has stuck with me ever since: "You guys won a lot, but that wasn't the point. For most kids, youth sports is where they first experience failure. Teaching them how to work through that will ultimately help them in their relationships, education, and career." 25 years later, youth sports looks a lot different than it did back then. Youth sports is booming financially , but at what cost? A recent study shows teenage depressed doubled from 2010 to 2019 - and that was before the pandemic. Social media certainly has its role. Looking at the current state of youth sports, I cannot help but wonder if it's doing more harm than good. The Good Bad and Ugly of Youth Sports Nothing prepares you for when a parent calls you to tell you their child tried to take their own life. The pause felt like an eternity before they told me they didn't succeed - and then they asked me to go visit their child that evening in the ward. I didn't know what to expect when I walked in. When I walked into the community room they were in, their back was to me. When I tapped them on the shoulder, they bounded out of the chair and jumped into my arms. We ended up talking for about 90 minutes that night about a variety of topics, from volleyball, to the challenges of being a teenager in general, to specific things to their situation. I remember the first time a player told me about their own suicidal attempts years after I had coached them. I had no idea the burden they had carried - on the outside they were a beacon of joy towards myself and everyone on their team, and I would have thought that was one person who didn't battle depression. Those players' stories have had positive outcomes - but it doesn't always work that way. One of my former athletes did take their own life. They were an All-American whose smile is burned into my mind to this day. It just goes to show you never know what someone's going through. But looking at the above study, it's safe to say that many kids could use a self-esteem boost. I've never lost sight of the absurdity that my life is spent teaching people how to hit a ball over the net - or prevent it from hitting the ground on their side. But helping athletes see the best in themselves is the real reason I coach. I've always felt it was important that while I want to push my kids to be the best they could be, I would never resort to methods that would make them feel like they were lesser when they fell short of goals. Parents: If your child had a mental health episode, would their youth sports coach be an ally? Or would they be the cause? A few years ago, I had a 12 year old that was super sweet and very talented, but there were moments working on skills where would just freeze on the court. The rest of the kids were similar, so we sat in the sand to talk about it. I mentioned how we had been making mistakes, but there was no consequences. We were there to learn how to be successful, not to just immediately do the skills right. All I was asking was for them to give their best effort - so what held them back from that effort? They raised their hand and said "Coach, I hear what you're saying. But everyone else I play, when I make a mistake, I get yelled at, punished, or put on the sideline. And the worst part is, they don't tell me how to do it right. " One last story: One of my hardest-working kids was having a rough practice. On the surface, it just seemed like they weren't engaged in the drill. I was nudging them for a better effort, but this day they seemed completely disinterested. I was confused, so at the water break, I pulled them to the side and asked what was going on. They burst into tears, told me about how their friend took their own life, how they battled depression themselves and how upset they were that their school seemed more interested in sweeping the news under the rug than supporting help to the students. I immediately shifted my tone/focus for the rest of the practice, they had a better second half of practice, and I checked in on them a few times a day just to see how they were doing. I talked to their father a couple days later and they thanked me for the support. I think about how many kids go to practice carrying similar burdens. What happens when a coach just chews them out, punishes them, and makes them feel like a failure? Youth sports should be a place kids go to get a recharge from the challenges they face in their lives. But when the environment serves to do the opposite, how much does youth sports contribute to the mental health woes? Kids watch as the top teams in their organization get the best coaches and a better education, meanwhile they're left to feel like if they aren't viewed as providing value for their team, they don't get the same opportunities for growth. What is that teaching our kids? I recently read a book by Brene Brown where she talks about belonging vs. fitting in. I immediately thought about the current landscape of youth sports and felt that would be a good measurement of what makes a youth sports program truly successful. How many kids truly felt a sense of belonging in their programs, and how many were fitting in? Many kids are forced early to abandon sports they love because to play in high school, they're expected to play travel ball (and in some cases, travel sports won't even let their players participate for their high school). In our region, nationals ended last June and within a week, girls were back in the gym with tryout t-shirts for the next season. Many of them have parents that are forced to cut a check to lock in a spot for the next season, but they will not know their teammates or coach until November/December. In some cases they'll be told the team needs them to play a different position than they signed up for. If they do not like the situation that they're put in, they're left with the choice to lose their down payment (often hundreds and sometimes more) or to stick it out. From 15-18, if athletes play for their high school and compete in a nationals program for club, they will not get an off-season for four straight years. Aside from the rise in overuse injuries , these kids experience mental burnout. But they don't have a clear alternative if they want to make their high school team and possibly play in college (a carrot that's being dangled to parents by governing bodies, even though roughly 12 out of 13 high school athletes will not play a varsity sport in college . It doesn't have to be that way - but as long as people in power are looking at youth sports as a financial opportunity instead of a chance to build life skills in children (seriously - click that link and read the report outline. Tell me if anything there strikes me as viewing kids and their families as anything other than consumers), things will continue to be challenging. How Do We Improve Current Conditions? The challenge we face is, the power lies with parents' checkbooks. As long as they accept the current conditions, organizations have no incentive to change them. I also think parents are in a tough spot, because many governing bodies and 'expert' articles act as borderline propaganda keeping parents looking at youth sports as a return on investment/scholarship opportunity for college. I believe once the 93% of families that won't make it to the next level start realizing that maybe they need something different than the 'norm', programs will have to accommodate that. There are programs that are leading the charge for change - but we're having to build our audience from the ground up as our ideologies don't align with the bigger bodies in our industry. Many parents think "things have to be this way", but is it true? My friend runs a true not-for-profit club on the east coast. They're a smaller organization, but they have 3 coaches per team . Don't believe me? Here's their coaching staff page . Their prices are modest too compared to many clubs. So if an organization can sustain itself when the money truly goes back to the program, why are we accepting of when programs hire high school kids or coaches with no experience? Our program is beach, but I believe we've created a sweet spot for high-level development, flexibility of scheduling, and equal opportunity for growth from top-to-bottom: *Four 10-11 week sessions with three one-month pauses allow for athletes to take breaks, play other sports, or invest time into other hobbies. Youth sports should work around your life, not the other way around. *Cap of 8 kids per court to ensure everyone gets individual attention *Every group gets the same coaches, same system, and the same opportunity for growth. *In-house competition to give players game-like experience without having to pay for airfare/hotel/etc. But our college-track athletes do travel for competitive tournaments on their own accord. I believe many kids do get a good experience from their organizations - and if they have good coaches and teammates they get along with, that's great. But so many athletes "fit in". They know it's not a great situation, but it's what they have to do to keep up with their peers in their minds. Then when the system doesn't serve them, they feel that there's something wrong with them. This has been a problem I've been trying to address since I started Progression, and given the recent studies, it's as relevant as ever. Parents, players, coaches: I challenge you to make sure youth sports environments serve to help kids see the best of themselves/avoid contributing to these statistics. Youth sports done wrong can destroy a kid's self-worth. But by setting a higher bar for what a youth sports program should provide for kids, I truly think it can be one of the best tools to build it up. For anyone that's interested in joining the cause of making youth sports a better place for kid, you can reach Coach Bryan at Bryan@progressionvolleyball.com

Me on what appears to be my 7th birthday. Dreaming then, dreaming now! Last week I celebrated my 38th birthday. I know a lot of people dread getting older - I always look at it as 'making it' to the new year. Once my college coach passed away 15 years ago at the age of 29, my perspective on aging changed pretty drastically. A more important milestone this year is this fall will mark my 20th year of coaching. I feel grateful for the opportunity to do what I do for a living. On one hand, it seems silly to have your life revolve around a game where we hit a leather ball over the net. But I've always wanted to inspire others, and I'm lucky to have found a fun way to do it. 37 was a very uncomfortable year - but a lot of growth came from it. I had to completely re-format my program to adapt to the new club tryouts, and while we took it on the chin this summer, I feel we've created something special. I'm grateful to feel like I have the right staff in place to help me bring it on a larger scale to both Chicago and beyond. For a long time I've had to do so much hands-on work in the facility, I feel like I've done a terrible job of marketing/letting people know what we're doing. So: I'm getting outside my comfort zone here. I'm 'shooting my shot'. I'd like to talk about what I've been doing over the last two decades, where we're going, and if you feel this information may benefit people you know (parents/players/coaches), then I shamelessly ask you to share this. Because after trying to partner with organizations within our sport, I think it's clear that as long as what we're doing is focused on the families and not on the margins, we're going to have to build our audience on our own. I don't believe I'm the 'best' coach out there. But I think I'm as good as any volleyball coach. And I don't say that from a place of arrogance - coaches are thieves, and a lot of what I do came from learning from people that have been doing this a lot longer than I have. I have been lucky to work with some of the best players and coaches in the world. But this sport's giants are accessible to those that are willing to reach out. I think anyone can do what I do if they're willing to put the time in. And I've put the time in. I spent my first three years coaching for free learning under Bob Vilsoet at Harper. As far as I know, I'm the only college athlete that was also coaching college at the same time - I was working Lasell's sideline as an assistant in 2008, then months later walked into that same gym representing Newbury and thrashed their men's team, all while their girls cheered for their assistant coach. I remember how frustrated a few of their guys were to see their peers cheering on their opponent. As I approached graduation, I emailed every Division I coach in the country over the span of 2 weeks looking for GA/Assistant work. I proceeded to take a job at Mercer University in Macon Georgia. It was surreal to go from playing at a school that didn't have a gym to a 5,000 seat arena, a team lounge w/ a projector screen, and a training room that was bigger than our entire workout facility. I learned a lot about the game in the six years I coached college. I also saw a lot of things I didn't like. I'll detail those things in my book - all I'll say here is I quickly realized helping others get better/caring about who they are as people was why I coached. I didn't like the idea of using athletes as cogs in my machine at all costs to win games, so I came back home and started working a 9-to-5. Bless Nicole Snyder's heart for asking me to coach at her former middle school. It was a big shift from 6-footers to 6th-graders. But I loved working with those kids. As our season came close to an end, the school asked if I would coach their 7th grade team. I said I'd coach, but I wanted the 8th graders. I had ran a weekend camp for each grade, and when I met the 8th graders, I started the camp by asking each person what skill they wanted to improve on the most. Their answers broke my heart: They collectively told me that they weren't any good, and that their previous coaches had told them they sucked. They hadn't won a game for 3 years. But they reminded me a lot of my younger self. I spent my first 3 years playing volleyball with no idea what I was doing. I was short, big-footed, and my coach was a parent that had no background on the sport. On paper, we weren't very good at the sport. But the thing is, this is a sport that takes time. People don't peak into their 30's (and on the beach, sometimes their 40's). These kids just needed guidance. Youth sports is supposed to teach kids how to respond to failure, not feel like one. So I told the school my terms and they gave me the 8th grade team. We won one full match and a few other sets. But those girls improved so much. We had fun while we did it. We celebrated the good plays and learned from the bad plays - and there were many learning moments. But I don't think those girls could have asked much more of themselves, and I hope all these years later those young women are crushing their education/relationships/careers with confidence that if they love something, but they need to work to achieve whatever they want to achieve, they can do it if they're willing to put the work in. I spent the next few years coaching club, including working for one full-time. I coached everything from 18-1's to 15-7's (and my goodness, that 15-7's team was special. They'll get their own chapter in my book). Fast-forwarding, because I know this is getting long and I want to get to my point, I started to realize that perception and reality in youth sports are not aligned. And I think it was and is destroying kids, misleading parents, and burning out coaches. I've spent the last 8 years building Progression. It hasn't been easy. I spent over a quarter of a million dollars over 3 years to lease 2 sand courts, only to get undercut by the owner and a club director who I brought into the sand industry because he told me about how he used his indoor program in the suburbs to fund programming in the city to help lower-income kids (that was a lie, and I'm tired of tip-toeing around that person. I wish no ill-will on him or his program, but I'm tired of pretending like he wasn't/isn't a fraud. Our last conversation, he told me "don't give me a gold mine idea - I'll take it." Would have liked that transparency when he was telling me all about how it was about the kids years before). I was lucky enough to find an opportunity to build 2 courts of my own. I had no money, I had no credit, I had no collateral. But I had my reputation and a strong business plan, and through funding within the volleyball community, we built two state-of-the-art courts that I believe are the nicest two indoor beach courts you'll find (AVP Pro Ed Rateledge called it a "Slice of Hermosa Beach" - I'll take it!). It was about a year of uncertainty, a few months of chaotic building, and we were open. 6 months later, the pandemic hit. The biggest challenge wasn't navigating the pandemic - we put a plan in place that avoided a single positive case within our program the first 18 months we re-opened. The biggest challenge has been the way indoor programs have adjusted - which is to require athletes to commit to their program year-round. A lot of us in Chicago were shocked at how indoor programs with well over 100 kids in their beach program dwindled to the dozens as kids were in 'open gyms' from the moment Nationals ended to the official tryout dates. Tournament directors that were always filling up their events had to cancel many of them due to a lack of interest. Many of our athletes that usually train with us in the summer were given an ultimatum by their clubs: Try out and cut a check in July, or else you may not have a spot in November. Accepting the reality that kids in the area would no longer be able to juggle both, we created a new year-round calendar for our athletes that 2 sessions in is being very well-received: We have a fall session, winter session, spring session, and summer camp, with one-month pauses in February/May/August. Groups are capped at 16 (8 per court), and every group gets the exact same high-level coaches. I feel the measuring stick for a youth sports program is "How different does the training look for the newest team vs. the strongest team". One of the biggest perks to our beach program is I feel we can look a parent in the eye and guarantee them the same quality of education regardless of the level of their child. We play games in-house on the weekends to provide game experience without requiring parents to spend a lot on travel/hotel/etc. We have girls that play other sports that can actually play those other sports. We have girls that have never played before, but within weeks they have a solid foundation to build their fundamentals. Our top athletes do travel at their own discretion, and we bring in some of Chicago's best women to truly prepare them for the speed they'll experience in college. The kicker is, you could play all 4 sessions and the total would be $3,200. Some families pay more than that for travel alone each year. Our focus is on the development, because all the travel in the world won't get an athlete recruited if they aren't a certain level, and we've had some girls recruited off of film that primarily shows footage from our courts. The TALENT of the athlete is what gets them recruited, so we put our focus on making sure we help our athletes be the best they can be. The Aspen Institute estimates that youth sports is a $30 billion dollar industry and rising . At the same time, nearly half of youth sports injuries are due to over-use. In our region, volleyball players that play both high school and club literally get no off-season for four years if they participate at nationals. So while revenue continues to go up, the numbers are tied to quantity of participation, not quality of programming. For those that are in a good situation, I would never encourage them to leave a good thing. There are certainly kids that are of a certain level which have found good coaches/teammates to surround themselves with. But many kids play for programs because of two reasons: 1) They join programs which do not prioritize them because they want to "keep up with the Joneses", and they've been led to believe club is the only option to success. Many join programs where the peers they are trying to catch get better coaching/development, which widens the gap further. 2) They haven't had a good experience at one program, so they go to another club thinking the issue was the original club - only to find out they're going to be put on the lower teams/given the same experience at the new program. The elephant in the room is, larger programs will not prioritize the development of their rawer athletes. Many of these athletes thrive when they're given the "1's team treatment" - but some never get to experience that. We've had so many parents and players tell us they learned more in weeks with us than they did years elsewhere. I don't say that to boast - I say that to express many parents and players can and should demand more from the programs they invest so much time and money to join. For those in the Chicagoland area, if you or someone you know loves the sport but hasn't had a good youth sports experience, we'd love to have them come in. Don't take my word on all of the above - we do one-time lessons for kids, and if they don't like, they don't have to come back. THEY try US out, vs. the other way around. If they're willing to give their best effort and be respectful of their peers, we're happy to have them. For those that coach, feel the way I feel, but feel 'stuck' where they're at, reach out. It isn't an easy path, but there ARE ways to provide an alternative option for young athletes. I'd love to help you find the best way to do it for your situation. For everyone else that's made it this far, I appreciate your support, I wish you well in your own endeavors, and I hope you'll continue to follow us as we build a youth sports model that truly prioritizes the physical and mental well-being of all its athletes. No kid held back, no kid left behind. The way youth sports should be.